Checking In

(3-minute read)

Feeling a little lost? Perhaps it’s time to check in. Below is a list of questions and reminders you can revisit as often as you like. I hope it helps you to find grounding.

There aren’t any rules for these prompts, only a few gentle suggestions:

• Put aside the time you need to be honest and gentle with yourself and really listen.

• Relax your shoulders, face, jaw and hands. Release any tension you might be holding on to.

Ask yourself

What am I thankful for?

If I had extra money, what would I do?

What am I putting off?

How can I play today? How can I get in touch with my inner-child?

Can I move my body joyfully today? How?

What am I tired of? What can I do about it?

How can I be kinder to myself right now?

How do I feel?

What do I need?

How do the people around me make me feel? Do they energise me?

What can I forgive today?

Would I like to challenge myself today? How?

What am I celebrating?

What do I want to do less of?

What do I want to do more of?

How am I speaking to myself today?

What am I noticing in my body?

What can I love about myself today?

What can wait until tomorrow to have my full attention?

Ask your partner(s)

Which love languages (physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time) are you enjoying at the moment?

Which are you missing?

How can I love you better right now?

How can you love me better right now?

Is there anything on your mind (even if it’s “not worth talking about”)?

What can we do outside the usual routine today?

How have you actively chosen this relationship today?

On a spectrum of intimacy to space, what do you need? What does our relationship need?

What extra support do you need (if any) at the moment? Have you considered alternative places to get it?

Gentle reminders

Drink water.

Give thanks for unknown blessings already on their way.

Smile at the sky and know it’s smiling back.

You are worth more than your productivity.

Be generous.